Love is when someone appreciates you despite all your weaknesses.

Love is when someone you hardly know surprise you with

THIS:

and THIS:

No promotional pens from anyone though this year.

Love is hearing your children sing birthday song to you.

One of my best birthdays…that is TODAY.

Thank YOU, YOU and YOU and to you too, MY LOVE.

I love this song. It brings me so much memory. I danced a sign language dance to the song. I still remember going to Salvation Army to learn the sign and the dance step from Edward, the choreographer. We performed it during the Christmas Joy celebration in Malacca. Can’t remember the year. Unfortunately I have totally forgotten the steps. :(It is also the dance that brought me closer to hubby, then just a friend. After learning the dance, I taught it to some of the church members. Hubby is one of them. We performed in our church and also dance at others church that invited our pastor to preach. It is a very good experience traveling in a group, no travel insurance needed coz we travel locally only, performing before others and blessing them with our God given gift.

I miss those days.

Do you know your love language?

Imagine this. Inside each and everyone of us there is a love tank that needs to be filled. It’s like the petrol tank in the car. Without petrol, the car can’t move. And it must be petrol only, not gas, water or oil.

There are 5 types of “petrol” for human or we call it love languages. They are Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation and Receiving Gifts. Each of us will need at least one of them to feel loved by others; by our spouse or parent.

Let’s say my love language is Quality Time but my husband is so busy with his business and did not spend quality time with me. Instead he buys me dog supplies for my pet dog. Receiving Gifts is not my love language, so I won’t feel love by him.

That is why sometimes husband don’t understand why the wife complaint that he don’t love her even after spending so much money and time for the wife. Obviously, Quality Time and Receiving Gifts is not her love language.

My Love Languages are…

Primary
Quality Time
This can be expressed either through those intimate heart to heart discussions or via doing things together.

* I get lonely and begin to feel uncared about if I can’t hang out with someone I love.
* I feel complete when I spend time with people I love.
* I show people I care by being with them.
* I expect others who care about me to spend their time with me.

Secondary
Acts of Service
You prefer to show your love through favors and chores and doing things for others. You feel put-upon and unappreciated when your efforts are taken for granted.

* I often feel special, significant, and useful when I help others.
* I often feel upset when others don’t help me out, much less offer to do anything.
* I show affection by doing things for other people.
* I don’t usually ask for help, but when someone does something for me, I feel really cherished.

#3 Physical Touch
#4 Words of Affirmation
#5 Receiving Gifts

What is yours? Find out here.

I really recommend you love birds out there to give this book a try. I mean go read it lar. And apply what you have learnt.

Book Description
In The Five Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman talks about how different people express love in different ways. Some people are verbal, expressing their love in words. Others may never speak their affection, yet they show it by the things they do.

Sadly, many couples look to receive love the same way they give it, misunderstanding their spouses. This can lead to quarrels, hurt feelings, and even divorce. However, if you understand each other’s love languages, you can learn to give and receive love more effectively.

We did actually apply it in our marriage / relationship. It works. Try it.
Oh ya, don’t forget to let me how it goes.

Psssttt…My hubby’s are Words of Affirmation and Acts of Service. I find it difficult to give him Words of Affirmation (it is just not me) but am trying very hard.

Dolphins are blue, so true blue, calm in the storm, they never sleep, so ever-present, they’re friendly, so amicable, accountable, dependable, and protective. This award is presented for bloggers who always stand by you!

Wow! Jess, you sure I deserve the above or you just need it as interim.

When I read the above description, these are the names that appeared in my mind. Jess, Michelle and Chooi Peng. They really stood by me every since I got to know them. Friends like them are hard to come by. Even if you offer me a month stay at Colorado bed and breakfast, I won’t exchange it with their friendship.

People have this ideal thought that God is the God of Love. A merciful God and a loving God. Some cannot comprehend it when God allows suffering and kept questioning why god allows suffering.

I myself went through suffering before, emotional and physical. When I reflect back and see who I am today, I kinda understood why God allows suffering. To make a better ME.

You know the phrase, “God is the Potter and We are the Clay”? In order to make beautiful a beautiful and durable vase, the potter will mold, break and mold again till perfection. Then it has to go through fire to make the clay harden. That is how our life is in God’s hand. He molds us, He breaks us, He molds us again and He allows us to go through fire, that’s suffering to make us a stronger person, spiritually and emotionally.

If you are not convince with my answer, coz I am no preacher. I would suggest that you attend the Alpha Course: Questions of Life. Alpha Course is not only available in US or Canada, they have it worldwide.

I think most of us have heard the saying, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” If that is true, I have lost my way. Even though I have a few cookbooks, time has not permitted me to try the recipes in them. Most of the times I am just plain lazy to cook when I think of the oiliness and the washing that needs to be done after cooking.

Thank God that my husband is not so particular about food. Even though I do not have a picky husband when it comes to food, as long as there is chili in the dish, he will be a happy man. He does express his love more when I took the effort to cook for him.

So this saying does not apply to me.

…love is not jealous… 1 Cor 1:13

But I can’t help feeling jealous when I see hubby talking or holding hands with other ladies. Holding hands when Pastor asked everyone to hold hands to worship and pray together type of hold hand.

Is it because I feel insecure?

I think because many ladies like my hubby that’s why I feel insecure. He is a charmer you know.

Some more, when I tell him about it, he laugh. Not that re-affirms his unfailing love towards me and faithfulness.

…love is not self-seeking…

Maybe because I am selfish. Don’t want to share him. I made a mistake by ending our relationship long time ago and he almost got married with another girl. In others words, I shared him. I so regret it at times.

Have I become too protective now?

Since God’s said that Love is not Jealous and Love is not Self-Seeking, does not mean that I do not love my husband???

Arrghh! I am making myself confuse here!

When you finally return to your eternal home, what type of legacy would you leave behind for your love ones? Besides the memory of me, the only tangible legacy would be my blogs.

Today, I found a website that we can leave our footprint behind, MyFootprints.com. It is very easy to use where we can add family and friends to be linked to our page. I can add my last wishes, mostly what to do with my body after I have returned to the Lord. Then I can have my last email, last video and my secret diary which will only be made known to those that I selected after I died.

In MyFootprints you can also find my favorite photos, all there is to know about me and also I can start a life journal in it. This is so interesting; I really recommend it for you to sign up. I am sure you would love it, like I do.

Here’s a video clip about MyFootPrints.

We eat.

We hold hands.

We walk.

We talk.

We tease.

We laugh.

We snap photos.

All this happened last night at Puteri Beach. Our Thursday night out, just the two of us.

Well, I can’t say that we are a romantic couple but as married couple with children, we need to take time to be with each other. To get each other’s 100% attention.

Dating at the beach is one of our best memories.

When we first dated, the Klebang Beach is our meeting place, early in the morning. We meet to jog together on the beach then pray then play. I remembered him carrying me on his shoulder. It was scary but it was fun. I don’t think hubby can carry me now. I am too heavy for him now or he is growing older, not much energy when he was 19! hehe.

Looking forward to our next date. I think we will go to the beach again.

One of the worst thing that every human can feel is guilt. It is a form of mechanism that God has put into our spirit to tell us that we have done something wrong against God. Is this too difficult to understand? Let me put it in a simpler sentence. It is the not nice feeling that you will feel when you know that you have done something wrong and God wants to remind you to repent from that wrongdoing. Then the choice would be yours. You can ignore, put aside, cover it and pretend that it is not there but the guilt will always be there. Alternatively you can repent, ask for forgiveness and get rid of your guilt. The first option is easier to our human nature but the result is not so liberating. The second option is very hard to do but it gives total freedom. Unfortunately, many of us choose the first option.

Frances D.Munson has wrote a A book about God’s love titled “Fallen, but Not Forgotten”. It is a story that will definitely cause you to think about your own life. Like what I mentioned earlier, most of us feel that we are doing okay, not a bad person, did not do any major wrong/sin. In fact we covered many of our guilt feelings with layers upon layers of reasons that we cannot even feel those guilt feelings anymore. Frances’ story is truly amazing, a story of forgiveness and hope. It shows of God’s love, mercy, grace, and forgiveness that is available to all who ask and willing to accept. It is not cheap to receive forgiveness from God. In fact God requires a sacrifice for your sin. The good thing is that Jesus has paid it for you by being the sacrifice when he died on the Cross. This is truly God’s love and mercy at work. Would you please be like Frances, humble enough to accept God’s love, mercy and forgiveness.

A natural human tendency when they love someone too much; we pamper them. As mother, because I love my children so much, I will pamper them and letting them have their own way sometimes. This makes me realized that I have been pampering my husband too much because I love him so much. I think I have spoilt him.

I realized that part of the reason I want to resign is to discipline him, to give him back his responsibility, to be the breadwinner. I have enough. Since he started the business, I am the one who worries and find ways to get extra income. I blog like mad and felt sick a few times due to lack of sleep. In the event I neglected my children.

I am putting a stop to this by resigning coz I cannot depend on my hubby to teach and guide our children in their studies even though he has more time with them compared to me. Let him worry about money. That is his responsibility, not mine.

It looks like the maid would not be arriving on the expected date. It seems that she has yet to report to the maid agency in Indonesia. We were advised to wait for another week. If she comes then it is well and good. However, if she still fails to report then we would have to apply for another maid. That would mean that we have to wait for another month. If that were to happen then we would most probably get a temporary maid first.

When hubby told his mother about it, she was not worried about not getting the maid so soon. I guess that she is now healthy again and life is back to normal for her. I wonder whether her children would send her to the nursing homes if ever her health is deteriorating. Looks like not many of them would be able to care for her on a daily basis as most of them are working. If ever we have to decide on that matter, I believe the most important factor that should override all other factors is love. Love covers all.

It has been more than a year since I last see him standing behind the pulpit.

Well, he finally preached again last Sunday. His sermon is taken from the book of Kings, 1 Kings 19:9b-18 about prophet Elijah.

You can read about it here: Out from the cave.

I was very frank with hubby about his preaching. I almost fell asleep! The flow was not smooth and he repeats the word “Come out from the cave” too many times till I lost concentration.

It shows that he really rusted already. I am sure after a few more preaching and getting use to the congregation, he will preach better.

Looking forward to the next one. Dunno when.

The lady beside him is not me. She is the translator. Translating from English to Malay.

It nice to know and that people are very much in love and display their affection in public after many years of being with each other.

I was out shopping with my family yesterday and I saw a middle age couple, walking, holding hands, talk, giggles like those young people who are deeply in love. Then I think to myself, “Hey I am like that too when I am out dating with hubby without the children” hehehe. Hey I am still much in love with my first love after all.

One of my blogger friends, Jess can’t and won’t go anywhere without her husband. She will miss him dearly if he needs to go outstation or oversea for work and they have been married for 8 years already. She told me that her husband will whisper in her ear that he loves her every night before bed for the past 8 years! I was like “Wow! I wish hubby is like him.”

Well, different people show love differently.

I am sure online shopping is not so alien these days especially if you have an internet at home. I bought a few stuff online too like my digital camera, lingerie (shy to go to the lingerie shop), watches and domains. At that time I was not aware about the existence of coupon codes to get extra discounts except when I bought the domain name of this blog. Oh well, now I know, got to be smart in my next shopping trip.

Hey, Christmas is just around the corner. I have a wishlist if any of you is kind enough to buy a Christmas present for me.

A handbag. I found the above from eBags.com. Don’t worry about the price you can get 20% discount with eBags coupon codes.

Or a Nike shoe. I have been eyeing for a Nike shoe for such a long time but can’t afford one yet. Buy for me please. Remember? You can get discount with Nike coupon codes from CouponChief.com.

Ok, that is all I want for Christmas. I still have my 2 front teeth.

Honestly, I am in that situation now. I have 2 home loans and a personal loan (business loan) to pay. I wanted to resign from work but when thinking about the loans to pay, I have to think many times about it. This is called Financial Bondage. No Financial Freedom. You can’t simply quit your job even when you don’t like the boss unless you can find other jobs around.

Now I understand the reason Bill Gothard (IBLP) stressed on Christian leading a life of financial freedom. No worries about leaving our present job when God finally calls us to go to the mission field to serve His people.

As for now, we have so many things to consider before telling God, “Yes, I am ready to go now.” Pack our bag and go.

Online Dating is so common nowadays but we have to be very careful when meeting strangers. Not all of them are serious to getting into serious relationship. Many “predators” out there are waiting to “devour” innocent women.

I found some good tips on online dating that I would like to share especially when it comes to “Let’s Meet” part. Below are a few precautions that you should take when planning for the meet, especially for the ladies.

• Firstly, be sure your family members, if not, close friend know about your meeting place, what time you are meeting, and the time you will be leaving.
• Must inform them you adjourn to another meeting location.
• Meet in public location where there are other people around.
• Never have the person pick you up in his or her car so that you can leave if things do not work out.
• If you meet in other city or state, book your own hotel and do not share information with the person you going to meet.
• Don’t bring them back to your house.

The above are just a few tips that I summarized from OnlineDatingTips.org. Do visit the website to learn more about online dating.