First Love…never let it go

Do you know your love language?

Imagine this. Inside each and everyone of us there is a love tank that needs to be filled. It’s like the petrol tank in the car. Without petrol, the car can’t move. And it must be petrol only, not gas, water or oil.

There are 5 types of “petrol” for human or we call it love languages. They are Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation and Receiving Gifts. Each of us will need at least one of them to feel loved by others; by our spouse or parent.

Let’s say my love language is Quality Time but my husband is so busy with his business and did not spend quality time with me. Instead he buys me dog supplies for my pet dog. Receiving Gifts is not my love language, so I won’t feel love by him.

That is why sometimes husband don’t understand why the wife complaint that he don’t love her even after spending so much money and time for the wife. Obviously, Quality Time and Receiving Gifts is not her love language.

My Love Languages are…

Primary
Quality Time
This can be expressed either through those intimate heart to heart discussions or via doing things together.

* I get lonely and begin to feel uncared about if I can’t hang out with someone I love.
* I feel complete when I spend time with people I love.
* I show people I care by being with them.
* I expect others who care about me to spend their time with me.

Secondary
Acts of Service
You prefer to show your love through favors and chores and doing things for others. You feel put-upon and unappreciated when your efforts are taken for granted.

* I often feel special, significant, and useful when I help others.
* I often feel upset when others don’t help me out, much less offer to do anything.
* I show affection by doing things for other people.
* I don’t usually ask for help, but when someone does something for me, I feel really cherished.

#3 Physical Touch
#4 Words of Affirmation
#5 Receiving Gifts

What is yours? Find out here.

I really recommend you love birds out there to give this book a try. I mean go read it lar. And apply what you have learnt.

Book Description
In The Five Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman talks about how different people express love in different ways. Some people are verbal, expressing their love in words. Others may never speak their affection, yet they show it by the things they do.

Sadly, many couples look to receive love the same way they give it, misunderstanding their spouses. This can lead to quarrels, hurt feelings, and even divorce. However, if you understand each other’s love languages, you can learn to give and receive love more effectively.

We did actually apply it in our marriage / relationship. It works. Try it.
Oh ya, don’t forget to let me how it goes.

Psssttt…My hubby’s are Words of Affirmation and Acts of Service. I find it difficult to give him Words of Affirmation (it is just not me) but am trying very hard.