This is an email which I wrote to someone recently…
Marriage is never a bed of roses but most important there must be trust and transparently in marriage be it friends or money matters. My husband knows most of my friends; mostly online friends. I tell him everything and sometimes things that i cannot tell directly to him, i blog about it coz he reads my blog.
And when it comes to money, he knows how much i earn n save and so do i with his. We didn’t have any separate savings account; my money is his money, his money is my money. I helped him a lot too with his business when i was still working. I literally support him and the family when he first started his business. Even when we quarrel, we dont bring it up coz i do it sincerely. He is my husband what; if he susah, we also susah mah. i know most my my friends hv a secret bank account that their hubby didnt know about. this is not healthy in marriage. it shows that we dont trust our husband. and when the husband sense that we dont trust them, they will be very defensive and do the same too.
the only way to solve your marriage problem is to talk, talk and talk. no quarreling, no shouting, no screaming and no accusing pls. try to control your temper even when he did not control his. you cant think straight and rationally when both of you are shouting to each other.
for him to envy you, i agree it is wrong. ask him what is his expectation of you. tell him what is your expectation of him. discuss about it. he may not be able to fulfill all your expectation and so do you. find the best way to meet each other expectation.
when it comes to sharing about our daily life; what we do, where we go, who is our friends, what we eat, what we talk about with our friends etc. for men, you must ask them. man are not made to be a chatter box like us ladies. they will only tell if we ask. and they dont tell in detail also. so we have to be specific with our questions.
don’t give up so fast in your marriage ok. marriage is like a marathon. u run, u fall, u get up, you run again, you feel tired but you must not quit. u must finish the race. “till death do us part.” the first 7 years of marriage is very challenging. after that, it will be easier but not without problem though.
in a way problem is good. it helps the couple to know each other better n when both of u come out of this problem it is like a big wall that is separating both of u is broken down. u’ll appreciate each other more n love each other more too.
This is us on our 10th wedding anniversary. This year we have a 4mo baby tagging along. 
We had lunch at Kenny Roger’s Roaster. I browsed through our previous anniversary post, we ate at Kenny Roger’s during last year’s wedding anniversary. Hubby picked the place!
