Why do you think that we, the wife have to repeat what we asked/requested again and again? To the extend that the men call it “nagging”.
It is because men does not listen and do. That is why we have to keep on reminding and asking.
Men! Always blame the women. 
Every night my toes will be itching to be massaged. Sometimes they get some massage from hubby, sometimes they don’t. When it is a cold night, my feet will feel so “lenguh” and a good, hard squeeze will definitely take away the “lenguh”. On certain nights when I badly need a foot massage, I will try my very best to stay awake until hubby returns home from work. That will be very very late but it’s worth it. 
My car needs repair; balancing, alignment, loose steering and no horn. I have been asking hubby to help me do all those since before I gave birth but he kept ignoring it. Only until after my confinement and I need to use my car again to send our girls to school then only he sent the car to tighten the loose steering and fix the horn. That is after much pestering. Next is the balancing and alignment; I wonder when will he do this for me.
It was our 8th wedding anniversary and like every year before we went out for a special dinner, just the 2 of us. This year, this can’t be done because my newborn is fully breastfeed. We need to bring him along. So our choice of places to eat is very limited; furthermore, I am still in confinement and there are a lot of food I still can’t take.
We ended up having our anniversary dinner at Seoul Garden; BBQ Steamboat. The place is very clean and not many people too. For the first 15mins, my newborn slept soundly in the stroller and I have an interrupted meal. Unfortunately, he poops and then he wanted to latch most of the time when he discovered that he is not at home; feeling insecure I guess.
As always, hubby felt that it was not value for money because we only eat one type of food for a quite big sum of cash. He said, next time around we should just eat a lil bit here and there and get to try more varieties of food.
Ok then, for his birthday, we shall do that. 
After watching this video clip made by Yasmin Ahmad titled Funeral, I will not complaint or scold hubby when he farts in his sleep.
Thank God hubby did not snore. hehehe.
My wedding anniversary is approaching and as usual the choice of fine dining and places to go is mine. Every year I wish hubby would take this role and surprise me but he worried that his picky wife would sulk if the restaurant is not in her favor. 
So I was thinking that since I have to eat a lot now (I just discovered that the more I eat the more breastmilk I have. I want that so that my baby will be well fed.), let’s go for buffet dinner. It will be value for money. This is for hubby’s sake. I go for good food; set aside the price but as for hubby, it must be value for his money.
A blogger friend who does a lot of food review recommended EQ or Holiday Inn. So I went to check their buffet dinner price. If I am not mistaken, I saw RM70++ for a buffet dinner in EQ! My eyes almost pop out; since when they added RM20 to it?
So I told hubby on Gmail chat. “KENSEL.” (cancel). His replied, “LOL.”
My budget for both of us is only RM100. Call me cheapskate but we don’t have the luxury to spend so much for a dinner that we will poop out the next day. I think I am turning into my hubby already; everything must be value for money.
Btw, I can’t simply makan (eat) any food coz I am still in confinement. No unclean food. Don’t think I can take beef either. 
So now, where can we go? What can I eat?
Looks like I will be ending my confinement earlier by 4 days because on May 12 is our wedding anniversary. I don’t want to miss celebrating it again. But then, we can only go for dinner and no movie because my newborn will be tagging along. What to do, am fully breastfeeding him. For dinner I am going to indulge myself with beef steak and ice-cream which I am supposed to have on my birthday and before baby pops. I wonder whether I need a colon cleanse after it!
What we did not do was going for Satay Celup dinner because it was raining quite heavily and this wife doesn’t want to get wet walking from the car park to the restaurant. Well, when it is raining, you tend to run to get out of it and I can’t do that anymore with my 8 months tummy.
So I picked a place where there is sheltered car park. We ended up at MBO cinema watching The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. Our dinner was a quick bite of Fish and Chips at Marry Brown. By the way, we did not park at the sheltered car park because by the time we arrived there, it was only drizzling. 
I was telling hubby that we could only go for our 2nd honeymoon during our 10th Annivesary that is when our 4th child is already 2 years old and hopefully he/she has weaned of from breastfeeding.
Would love if we could afford to join the New York City Sightseeing. Cruising on the top deck of the double decker bus, admiring the high rise buildings in New York City and visit places of attraction in NYC especially their museums. If it is God’s will, one day we will do just that because there will be many more anniversaries to come.
I got the feeling that today is a special day but it did not strike my mind what is so special about today until I told hubby that next Monday is a public holiday; Prophet Muhammad’s birthday. You know, birthday = special occasion.
Then…”Oh ya! Today is 1st of March, our marriage registration anniversary. We are legally married for 8 years already!”
No wonder I wanted to go out dating with hubby today. I requested to have Satay Celup dinner with him which we did not go because it was raining. My sub-conscious mind some how know that today is a special day.
I can’t remember what happened!!!
All I can remember that after he sign off his love letter to me he will write this date: 920212
Was it the day we fell in love? Or the day we officially declared our love for each other?
Whatever it is, on that day a beautiful and complicated relationship began.
It started with really short distance relationship. We live just 2km away from each other and we worked in the same restaurant. However it only lasted for a few months then it turned into a long distance relationship; he in KL and me in Malacca.
KL is not THAT far but coming from a poor family, KL is VERY FAR. That is when the problem begins because my language of love is Quality Time. I need him besides me as often as possible but he can’t fill my love tank due to financial constraint.
Anyway, that is not what I want to share today. I told my love story many times in my blogs. What I wanted to share is about God, being the center in our relationship.
I fell in love with him because of his Christ-like character. I wanted to know what made him so different than any other guys that I knew. The more I know that it was God who made him who he is, the more I want to know about his God (i was a non-believer then you see). That’s how our friendship begins. Me, searching for the Man behind his wonderful character. Him falling in love with me because I am a tomboy!!!
Most of our dating topic revolves around God and His Word. We often prayed together and commit our relationship to God and asking Him to bless it. Innocently we prayed that He will keep us together no matter what happened in our life because we know that we are still very young then and there are much challenges in life that we will face.
True enough, we went our separate ways 2 years later but 8 years later, God brought us back miraculously! It was a miracle to me because he registered for marriage and I almost got married too! And we broke off because both our almost life partner to be was not compatible spiritually and was pulling us away from God.
Now, almost everyday, I will thank God for giving me back my David.
Disney cartoons are not just for kids. I know of a couple that loves Disney Characters. They are going to get married soon and they decorated their room with all Disney Characters. From the pillow case to the comforters, from the wardrobe to their mirrors, all Disney. For them, the best honeymoon would be the Disney cruises or a visit to the Disney World. When they have kids later, they could bring them along to visit those places on their n-th honeymoon.
End of last month, we attended yet another wedding dinner in the same hotel. It was the wedding of hubby’s niece. That was a very unique wedding in terms of the races. Hubby’s niece is a Chindian; mother Chinese, father Indian. She is married to a Singh; modern ones without the white turban. I thought Indian and Singh cannot get along! And her hubby’s relatives comes from all over the around the world (almost); some from UK, France, US, Australia but surprisingly none from India!
Nowadays wedding is quite different than my time; 7 years ago. There will surely be slide shows and dancing. How I wish I can turn back time and insert those two in my wedding. It is so much fun than just sitting down, eating and going around shouting “Yum Sheng” (that’s “Cheers” in Chinese).
Anyway, hubby said that we are not going to do this for our children. We will just have tea-ceremony and a simple wedding reception for close relatives and friends. No church wedding as that is Western culture.
In that case, I will make sure it will be the most beautiful wedding reception ever with the most beautiful Wedding Reception Flower Arrangements that people will talk for months about it!
In the book of Malachi, the Lord accused the people of being unfaithful. The men were divorcing their wives. God says that He hates divorce because divorce would not fulfill God’s purpose for marriage. God’s purpose for marriage is so that we can build up godly offspring. Furthermore, when a man and woman are married, they are one in spirit and flesh. Divorce breaks the spiritual union of the married couple. God warns not to break faith with the wife of your youth. Marriage is an important role in every human being.
Our night out again. I thought we won’t be going anywhere because we are financial tight but hubby decided that he still wanna go catch a movie. I happily oblige but we make sure we take our dinner at home so that we only spend on the movie tickets, pop corn and drinks. Next week, we must do without the pop corn and drinks.
It is great to still be able to take a break away from home and the children and just be with each other enjoying a movie together without needing to pause the movie to make milk, bring the children to the toilet or break a fight.
Being a married couple we need to make time for just US. Don’t you agree?
I get jealous so easily now when hubby chats or coming with close contact with other girls. I wonder why is that so? Is it because I am old, fat and ugly now compared to 7 years ago that I felt insecure and not confidence about myself? I think that is the reason. No matter how he assured me that he love me more now and that I am still sexy to him, I still don’t buy it even if he convince me by buying a Texas Gulf coast waterfront property. Fact is fact lar right that I am older now and fatter compared to 7 years ago. =P
This is the expanded us!!!
psst…this is all I can put up…am so tired after today…will update tomorrow after i have a good night rest.
Our 7th wedding anniversary is in 10 days time but our plan to go for 2nd honeymoon won’t be materialized even though we got good hotel deals from a mommy blogger.
I wanted to go to Bali but hubby can’t leave his business for too many days.
To Genting Highland again, we are not that fit to enjoy all the thrill rides and rock climbing. We also don’t feel comfortable to borrow a car again to go there.
Anyway, we will be going for one night stay at Tiara Beach Resort this Sunday with the kids and my mom. Jadi lar.
We just came back from the local Malay stall. We have Roti Canai, Carrot Milk and Lime Juice.
It was a very fruitful supper time.
I talk about blogging, as always. He talked about ministry. We talked about business, income, family, our vision, new year resolution that has yet to be fulfilled.
At the end of it, we felt so refreshed. We got back our focus in life.
Hubby suggested that we should do this weekly. We will see how it goes.
Being spontaneous.
That’s why we did tonight. All we know that Thursday is our night out. We did not plan on how to spend the night. All I know is, I wanted to eat Ikan Bakar.
So we drove all the way to Padang Temu and had our Ikan Bakar at Muara Sg. Duyung. It was raining so, a walk at the beach after dinner is not possible.
Hubby suggested for us to catch a movie. So to Mahkota Parade we went and we watched Escape from Huang Shi, a story based on true life story about a man named George Hogg that lead 60 Chinese orphaned boys to safety from the Japanese army.
I like spontaneity. It’s fun.
Time to go sleep beside my son. I promised him that before I left him with the maid.
How I wish!
We are just going to revisit our honeymoon destination tomorrow; Genting Highland. We are leaving Malacca to KL today for FOOD, specifically, DIM SUM.
This time we have multiplied. It won’t be just the 2 of us. Our 2 daughters will tag along. I really love that they are coming along because I worry that hubby will hibernate all day long like what he did during our honeymoon there.
I kinda regretted picking Genting Highland as our honeymoon destination. He slept and slept and slept. Hibernate you know. We are supposed to be in “honeymoon” remember???
I must make sure that no cold places for our 2nd Honeymoon. We are going to an Island or a Desert.
I remembered that I mentioned to one of my blogger friends that besides communication, sex is very important in marriage. We should put extra effort to spice our our sex life.
There are many places you can get sex tips online and being able to perform better for your lover is important in many couples relationships. There are different sex games that include different sex toys and other methods to make the relationship more exciting.