We just came back from the local Malay stall. We have Roti Canai, Carrot Milk and Lime Juice.

It was a very fruitful supper time.

I talk about blogging, as always. He talked about ministry. We talked about business, income, family, our vision, new year resolution that has yet to be fulfilled.

At the end of it, we felt so refreshed. We got back our focus in life.

Hubby suggested that we should do this weekly. We will see how it goes.

Being spontaneous.

That’s why we did tonight. All we know that Thursday is our night out. We did not plan on how to spend the night. All I know is, I wanted to eat Ikan Bakar.

So we drove all the way to Padang Temu and had our Ikan Bakar at Muara Sg. Duyung. It was raining so, a walk at the beach after dinner is not possible.

Hubby suggested for us to catch a movie. So to Mahkota Parade we went and we watched Escape from Huang Shi, a story based on true life story about a man named George Hogg that lead 60 Chinese orphaned boys to safety from the Japanese army.

I like spontaneity. It’s fun.

Time to go sleep beside my son. I promised him that before I left him with the maid.

How I wish!

We are just going to revisit our honeymoon destination tomorrow; Genting Highland. We are leaving Malacca to KL today for FOOD, specifically, DIM SUM.

This time we have multiplied. It won’t be just the 2 of us. Our 2 daughters will tag along. I really love that they are coming along because I worry that hubby will hibernate all day long like what he did during our honeymoon there.

I kinda regretted picking Genting Highland as our honeymoon destination. He slept and slept and slept. Hibernate you know. We are supposed to be in “honeymoon” remember???

I must make sure that no cold places for our 2nd Honeymoon. We are going to an Island or a Desert.

I remembered that I mentioned to one of my blogger friends that besides communication, sex is very important in marriage. We should put extra effort to spice our our sex life.

There are many places you can get sex tips online and being able to perform better for your lover is important in many couples relationships. There are different sex games that include different sex toys and other methods to make the relationship more exciting.

I forgotten that it is today until hubby came charging at me and gave me some passionate kisses. I was like, “Huh??? Why did you kiss me like that? What do you want? The kids are here lar.” Our son was near us, sternly said , “No!”.

So, today is our Registration of Marriage anniversary. I am legally his on this day 7 years ago. And the most prevalent memory on that day was me scolding him for spending RM40 for a bouquet of roses! And refusing to hold it to the registration building.

That is me…too practical at times.

You see, at that time we were struggling to save money for our wedding. So, why waste money for something that does not last? If he were to grab the land for sale Branson, maybe I won’t make so much noise. I didn’t know that couples will go there with flowers. My task on that day was…Go there, sign some papers, make a vow, take a few pictures then go home and go on with life.

I wonder who told him that I needed roses!

Since then, hubby did not buy me any roses anymore even on special occasion where a bouquet of flower would be romantic . I don’t mind it now coz, we do have some money to waste.

Anyway, here I am on our anniversary night blogging away and doing some strip tease over Skype.

He is working tonight lar!

Come to think of it, we have not really gone dating for quite a while. We do go out without the children but with errants to do.

Thursday is usually our dating night and we went out last night without any plan or errant to do. We went for a simple dinner at a nearby restaurant, ate our favorite Seafood Tomyam Beehoon then we took a stroll at the beach. Walking and talking about everything. From business, to the children, to the house and also our bedding!

I really enjoy this kind of night. Holding hands as though we are still single and no cares in the world.

We had fun last night, exploring new places.

Left the children behind, we went shopping. Finally hubby bought the punching bag that he has been eyeing for. Then we went to a phone shop and got hubby’s hp repaired. When asked for hubby’s name, they (Malay) were surprised that hubby is not a Malay. Even the Malay can’t differentiate hubby’s look.

We received a lot of attention from other people too. A Chinese Girl and A Malay Guy. I think, it must be hubby’s new glasses. It makes him look more Malay and a very handsome one too.

We explored other places too, and it is in my protected post. Sorry, it is not for the public to read, just for us to remember. I hope I won’t be needing any maternity clothes soon.

This post is taken from my children’s blog.

I was chatting with Chinnee and she asked me about my love story. This is what I found.

Watched Kuch Kuch Hota Hai on TV3 last night (from 11pm until 2am). A Hindi movie acted by Shah Rukh Khan, Kajol, Rani Mukherjee and Salman Khan. I seldom watch Hindi movies but not this one. I watched this movie many many times until the pirated VCD cannot be played anymore! No matter how many times I watch it, I will sure shed tears.

This time around, I watched it with hubby.

Just the 2 of us.
Rest my head on his broad shoulder.
Arms wrapped around his muscular body.
My sexy legs, wrapped around his hairy leg.

Very rare occasion. Coz most of the time, either the children or mom-in-law will be around.

The movie reminds me so much of my love story and my first love. First time watching it when I was still with my ex. Dreaming and hoping that he will be as sporting as Salman Khan to let me go to my first love. And my first love will actually confess that he still loves me and saved me from marrying my ex. Well, not going into details here. You can read more about it here.

Even after the movie ended, I still shed tears while lying in bed thinking about movie and my past. I am so relieved that it is my hubby besides me, not my ex. But the thought is not enough. I requested for us to become one. It was a sweet moment of a union between 2 lovers plus a beautiful sexy lingerie.

Thank you Lord for blessing us with each other.

We dressed in our most comfortable clothes. Me in my baby T and jeans and him in his slack and T-shirt. Then we head to a Malay warong near the beach. Yes, we dine in a warong. Not romantic at all right? Hehehe. Romance can wait later.

Main thing, we get our food quick and we don’t have to queue for parking or even to get into the restaurant.

We ordered our favorite.

Ayam Golek; grilled chicken. Something similar to Kenny Roger’s Roaster but kampong style.

Roti John. I love soaking the sardines coated bread in the chili sauce before savoring it.

Tomyam Bee Hoon. Hot and Sour, a very good appetizer.

Half of the Roti John has to be packed and take away. Too much food for us to finish.

Then we head to the nearest supermarket to get a bottle of lotion and bathroom lights. What did we do with it? “It” is the lotion, not the lights. That is for us to remember and for you to wonder.

My language of love has changed! It used to be, Primary: Quality Time and Secondary: Act of Service. I did the test again last week. Primary is still the same but my Secondary is now Physical Touch. I think it is true that I am more hamsap now!

Hello! Stop giggling! I am NOT okay!

I think partly because I am older now, have grown out of shape and more wrinkles popping up. So I need hubby’s touch more than before to re-affirm that he still wants me and my body is still sexy to him! hahahahaha

I waited and waited for my hubby to finish bathing. He has been in the bathroom for more than half an hour. Well, normally he is not this long. Don’t tell me that he is doing his “hubba hubba” which is very unlikely. So I went to the bathroom. The door was locked. There was no sound of water splashing or any activities in the bathroom.

I gently knocked on the bathroom door. He asked who is it. I replied and he opened the door. He is still clad in his towel, standing in front of the bathroom mirror. In his hand he is holding the hair remover clipper. He has been standing there in front of the bathroom mirror plucking out his white hair. Haiyaaa… so that is what he has been doing in the bathroom for the past half an hour.

“Wah…so many white hair de.” I told him as I noticed the many strands of white hair on the sink. “If you continue doing that, sooner you will need to do a hair transplant“, I continued.

He replied, “No need lah, I already married you”. Hahahaha….maybe I will get a bald husband. It’s okay as I still love him.

My parent, the one who brought me up never ever complaint or said a word about me being stubborn but my hubby who really knew me in less than a decade always points his finger at me when our children behave stubbornly. “Because you are stubborn, that’s why your children also stubborn.” Hello, doesn’t they have your genes too.

Truthfully, maybe he said it jokingly but it hurts deep inside.

A friend told me, “Man sometimes love to keep their brain inside the freezer.”
I replied, “No wonder so cold.”

I really don’t like feeling fat. I know I am fat because my tummy is bulging and my pants are tight. And also when you are in bed, going hubba hubba, not only you do not have much stamina to last as long as possible but the scene isn’t nice seeing so much flab, flabbing away.

So now, I am thinking, should I or should I not get the eca stack or any diet pills to help me burn my fat faster. I can’t fast because I will surely have gastric attack. I can’t run and swimming pool is too far away from home. How?

Aiya! I should have bought some gold jewelry two weeks ago when my colleague informed me that the price of gold has dropped. Now gold is more than a hundred ringgit for a gram. That is way too expensive for me.

I wanted to get a wedding ring for myself since the one that I have now couldn’t fit my fingers anymore. Why? What else? Fat lor.

Look like I will still stay unwed without the wedding ring on my finger unless all my three children tag along wherever I go. Then I am definitely married!

Well, I heard from my mom that my youngest sister has set the date for her wedding dinner on November 29, 2008. That will also be my pre-birthday dinner. hehe. It is because my birthday falls on November 30, 2008. I think hubby would say, “Phew! Save some money to bring her out for dinner that night.” Psst! Aren’t you forgetting that we would be spending much more for the Angpow for my sister???

They have also bought a new double storey terrace house. It would be very cost saving if we have directbuy here. They would be able to save tonnes of money buying at the manufacturer-direct prices. As for now, they just use their credit card to swipe first and think about how to pay them later!

Well, well, well, finally my youngest sister is finally going to have her wedding. It is going to held this December. Even though it is 11 more months to go, my dad has started to get busy remembering back names to be printed on the wedding cards. When you live in a village, we call each other by their nickname, some of them we don’t even know their real name until the time we need send wedding invitation cards to them.

I must not forget to inform my sister that she can cheap wedding invitation cards online. They are not only cheap but their design is much more beautiful that what I have seen at the printer shop. With the savings I hope they can plan for a better honeymoon destination. After what I have gone through during my honeymoon, I realised that good honeymoon destination is really important. Will share about that later.

Well, I did mentioned in my other blog that I don’t like making New Year Resolution. They stress me up when it does not materialized.

But when I was reading my ODB yesterday, I wanted to make one. Just a simple one.

1. To read at least the New Testament in one year. Never completed the whole bible before, always got stuck at Numbers!
2. To start a Family Devotion. Hmmm…have to nudge hubby on this.
3. To go for our 2nd Honeymoon. This year is our 7th year of marriage.

I think 3 is enough. No stress.

Now I realized the reason I always want to go out shopping, for dinner or for just a walk at the beach. Not because I want to spend money, I want to save as much as I can but I am willing to sacrifice all that just for his undivided attention.

When he is at home, the moment he leaves the dinner table and I can manage the children by myself, his eyes will be glued to the LCD monitor and his fingers pressing the keys on the keyboards.

He spends more time with his MoSiang game than his wife and children. This sucks.

When I first live with hubby in his family house, the house is occupied by his mother and “a year older than him” brother who were not married then. More than a year ago, he finally found his life partner and got married. However, he shifted to his wife’s family house even though MIL told him not to coz she will be lonely without him around because hubby is always not around due to ministry.

Yesterday, he informed hubby that he will be shifting back here. Honestly we weren’t that excited about it. We were kind of prepared our mind that this house will be ours. Now we have to share it with another family. But for the sake of MIL, we will to learn to accept it. Furthermore it is the family house.

Before that brother got married, we did discuss the possibility of getting our own home if he stays. Maybe we will if God bless us financially and if it is His will for us to have a home to call our own.

If that were to happen, we would need a company like Boston Moving Company to help us move. I don’t think we can do it on our own with 3 small children.

Do you know your love language?

Imagine this. Inside each and everyone of us there is a love tank that needs to be filled. It’s like the petrol tank in the car. Without petrol, the car can’t move. And it must be petrol only, not gas, water or oil.

There are 5 types of “petrol” for human or we call it love languages. They are Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation and Receiving Gifts. Each of us will need at least one of them to feel loved by others; by our spouse or parent.

Let’s say my love language is Quality Time but my husband is so busy with his business and did not spend quality time with me. Instead he buys me dog supplies for my pet dog. Receiving Gifts is not my love language, so I won’t feel love by him.

That is why sometimes husband don’t understand why the wife complaint that he don’t love her even after spending so much money and time for the wife. Obviously, Quality Time and Receiving Gifts is not her love language.

My Love Languages are…

Primary
Quality Time
This can be expressed either through those intimate heart to heart discussions or via doing things together.

* I get lonely and begin to feel uncared about if I can’t hang out with someone I love.
* I feel complete when I spend time with people I love.
* I show people I care by being with them.
* I expect others who care about me to spend their time with me.

Secondary
Acts of Service
You prefer to show your love through favors and chores and doing things for others. You feel put-upon and unappreciated when your efforts are taken for granted.

* I often feel special, significant, and useful when I help others.
* I often feel upset when others don’t help me out, much less offer to do anything.
* I show affection by doing things for other people.
* I don’t usually ask for help, but when someone does something for me, I feel really cherished.

#3 Physical Touch
#4 Words of Affirmation
#5 Receiving Gifts

What is yours? Find out here.

I really recommend you love birds out there to give this book a try. I mean go read it lar. And apply what you have learnt.

Book Description
In The Five Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman talks about how different people express love in different ways. Some people are verbal, expressing their love in words. Others may never speak their affection, yet they show it by the things they do.

Sadly, many couples look to receive love the same way they give it, misunderstanding their spouses. This can lead to quarrels, hurt feelings, and even divorce. However, if you understand each other’s love languages, you can learn to give and receive love more effectively.

We did actually apply it in our marriage / relationship. It works. Try it.
Oh ya, don’t forget to let me how it goes.

Psssttt…My hubby’s are Words of Affirmation and Acts of Service. I find it difficult to give him Words of Affirmation (it is just not me) but am trying very hard.